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of a woman's manners. Rusticity, broad expression, and forward obtrusion, offend those of education, and make the transgressors odious to all who have merit enough to attract regard. It is in this taste that the scenery is so beautifully ordered in the description which Antony makes in the dialogue between him and Dolabeila, of Cleopatra in her barge.
Her ga/ey down the filver Cidnos row'd; The lacklingsilk. the streamers wav'd with gold; The gentle winds were lodg'd in purple sails; Her nymphs, like nereids, round her couch were plac'd, Where she, another sea-horn Venus, lay; £ he lay, and lean'd her cheek upon her hand. And cast a look so languijhingly sweet, As if secure of all beholders hearts, Negleiiing jhe could take them. Boys like Cupids Stood fanning with their painted wings the winds That playd ahout her face: but if Jkc fmil'd, A darting glory seem'd to blaze abroad, That mens defiring eyes were never weary'd, But bung upon the objefi. To soft jlutes The jiiver oars kept time: and while they plafd, The hearing gave new pleajure to the sight, And hoth to thought
Here the imagination is warmed with all the objects presented, and yet there is nothing that is luscious, or what raises any idea more loose than that of a beautiful woman set off to advantage. The like, or a more delicate and careful spirit of modesty, appears in the following passage in one of Mr. Philips'^ pastorals.
Breathe soft ye winds, ye waters gently stow,
Desire is corrected when there is a tenderness or admiration expressed which partakes the passion. Licentious language has something brutal in it, which disgraces humanity, and leaves us in the condition of the savages in the sield. But it may be ask'd, to what good use can tend a discourse of this kind at all f It is to alarm
Vo L. VI. B. . chaste chaste ears against such as have what is above called the prevailing gentle' art. Masters of that talent are capable of clothing their thoughts in so soft a dress, and something so distant from the secret purpose of their heart, that the imagination of the unguarded is touched with a fondness which grows too insensibly to be resisted. Much care and concern for the lady's welfare, to seem afraid lest she shousd be annoyed by the very air which surrounds her, and this uttered rather with kind looks, and expressed by an interjection, an ah, or an oh, at some little hazard in moving or making a step, than in any direct profession of love, are the methods of skilful admirers: They are honest arts when their purpose is such, but insamous when misapplied. It is certain that many a young woman in this town has had her heart irrecoverably won, by men who have not made one advance which ties their admirers, though the females-languish with the utmost anxiety. I have often by way of admonition to my female readers, given them warning against agreeable company of the other sex, except they are well acquainted with their characters. Women may disguise it if they think sit, and the more to do it, they may be angry at me for saying it; but 1 say it is natural to them, that they have no manner of approbation of men, without some degree of love: For this reason he is dangerous to be entertained as a friend or visitant, who is capable of gaining any eminent esteem or observation, though it be never so remote from pretensions as a lover. If a man's heart has not the abhorrence of any treacherous design, he may easily improve approbation into kindness, and kindnels into passion. There may possibly be no manner of love between them in the eyes of all their acquaintance; no, it is all friendshifi; and yet they may be as fond as shepherd and shepherdess in a pastoral, but still the nymph and the swain may be to each other no other, I warrant you, than Pylades and Orestes-.
When Lucy de<is tuith flowers her smelling breast, jfnd on her eihow leans dissembling rest; Unable to refrain my madding mind, J\or jheip nor pasture worth my care IJind.
• Once Delia jlept, on easy moss redind, tier lovely limbs half bare, and rude the wind /smoothd her coats, and stole a filent kiss: Condemn me, jhcpherds if I did amiss.
Such good offices as theso| and such friendly thoughts *nd concerns for one another, are what make up the amity, as they call it, between man and woman.
It is the permission of such intercourse, that makes a young woman come tq the arms of her husband, after the disappointment of four or sive passions which she has successively had for disferent men, before she is prudentially given to him for whom she has neither love nor friendship. For what should a poor cremure do, that has lost all her friends? There's Marinet the agreeable, has, to my knowledge, had a friendship for Lor,d Welford, which had like to break her heart; then she had so great a friendship for Colonel Hardy, that she could not endure any woman else should do any thing but rail at him. Many and fatal have been disasters between friends who have fallen out, and these resentments are mote keen than ever those of other men can possihly be: But in this it happens unsortunately, that as there ought to be nothing concealed from one friend to another, the friends of disferent sexes very often find fatal effects from their unanimity.
For my part, who study to pass life in as much innocence and tranquillity as I can, 1 shun the company of agreeable women as much as possible; and must consess that I have, though a tolerable good philosopher, but a low opinion of Platonic love: For which reason I thought it necessary to give my fair readers a caution against it, having, to my great concern, observed the waist of a Platanist lately swell to a roundness which is inconsistent with that philosophy.
Js"° 401 Tuesday, June 10.
/« amore b<?c omnia insunt nitia: Injuritt,
Suspicions, inimicitiæ, mducitt,
Bellum, pax rursum. Ter. Eun. Act I. Sc. I.
It is the capricious state of love, to be attended with reproaches, suspicions, enmities, truces, quarrelling, reconcilement.
IShall publish, for the entertainment of this & .y, an odd lort of a packet, which I have just received from one of my female correspondents.
Mr. Spectator, « O INCE you have often consess'd that you are not 'O displeased your papers mould sometimes convey the 'complaints of distressed lovers to each other, I am 'in hopes you will favour one who gives you an un'doubted instance of her reformation, and at the fame * time a convincing proof of the happy influence your 'labours have had over the most incorrigible part of 'the most incorrigible sex. You must kr.ow, Sir, I am 'one of that species of women, whom you have often 'characterized under the name of Jilts, and that I « fend you these lines as well to do public penance for 'having so long continued in a known error, as to beg « pardon of the party offended. I the rather chuse this
* way. because it in some measure answers the terms on 'which he intimated the breach between us might pos
* sibly be made up, as you will fee by the letter he sent « me the next day after I had discarded him; which 1
* thought sit to send you a copy of, that you might the 'better know the whole case.
* 1 must further acquaint .you, that before I jilted
* him, there had been the greatest intimacy between us
* for a year and half together, during all which time I
* cherished his hopes, and indulged his flame. I leave
« you * you to guess after this what must be his surprise, when 'upon his pressing for my full consent oue day, I told
* him 1 wonder'd what could make him fancy he had ever 'any place in my affections. His own sex allow him
* sense, and all ours good-breeding. His person is such 'as might, without vanity, make him believe himself < not incapable of being beloved. Oar fortunes indeed, 'weighed in the nice scale of interest, are not exactly « equal, which by the way was the true cause of my 'jilting him, and I had the assurance to acquaint him 'with the following maxim, That I Ihould always be'lieve that man's passion to be the most violent, who could
* offer me the largest settlement. I have since changed 'my opinion, and have endeavoured to let him know so> « much by several letters, but the barbarous man has re
* fused them all; so that I have no way left of writing to
* him but by your assistance. If you can bring him about
* once more, I promise to send you all gloves and fa
* vours, and shall desire the favour of Sir Roces and
* yourself to stand as god-fathers to my sirst boy.
Tour most obedient most bumble servant.'
AM OR ET.
Philander to Amoret.
* "X am so surprised at the question you were pleased
* \_ to ask me yesterday, that I am still at a loss what to
* fay to it. At least my answer would be too long to 'trouble you with, as it would come from a person, 'who, it seems, is fo very indifferent to you. Instead of 'it I shall only recommend to your consideration the
* opinion of one whose sentiments on these matters I
* have often heard you fay are extremely just. A generous « and constant pajjion, fays your favourite author, in an
* agreeable lover, vjhere there is not too great a disparity in
* their circumstances, is the greatest blejsing that can befal a 'per/on beloved; and if overlook'd in one, may perhaps never
* be found in another.
'I do not, however, at all despair os being very short
* ly much better beloved by you than Ante/tor is at pre
13 3 * lent;