I'm OK, You're My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That WorksMacmillan, 02.01.2005 - 336 Seiten "Atkins's strength is in suggesting ways to rewire your relationship . . . If your parents drive you up the wall, there's plenty here to help you. And the cost of the book is definitely cheaper than therapy." —The Boston Globe In a recent study, half of all Americans rated their relationship with at least one parent as either "poor" or "terrible," and more than a third felt this way about both parents. As life expectancy continues to rise and the parent-child relationship extends further and further into adulthood, this problem has reached epidemic proportion. I'm Ok, You're My Parents offers practical, specific advice on how to - exorcise the demons of anger and resentment - untangle financial arrangements that cause stress and feelings of powerlessness - set limits on parental demands for time and attention - turn a spouse or friends into a powerful resource - overcome your own resistance to change - discover the redemptive power of humor This will prove invaluable to anyone eager to get off the "treadmill," gain control, and build a life that they and their parents can live with—forever. |
Inhalt
Sit Down Before You Read This | 11 |
PAST TENSE | 11 |
Making Sure Your Past Doesnt Last | 13 |
A Word about Becoming an Adult | 27 |
A Word about Guilt | 32 |
A Word about Anger | 39 |
PRESENT IMPERFECT | 51 |
What You Need to Know about Your Parents | 53 |
Learn to Love the Bait and Switch | 169 |
Let Them Be Your Savioror at Least Think They Are | 172 |
Disarm Them with Honesty | 177 |
Flatten Them with Flattery | 180 |
FUTURE SHOCK Troubleshooting the Hotspots | 185 |
They Manipulate Me with Health Crises Real and Imagined | 187 |
They Make Themselves a Little Too Much at Home | 201 |
They Dont Like My Spouse or That I Dont Have One | 211 |
Your Fantasy Parent Doesnt Live Here Anymore | 63 |
The Relief of Having Reasonable Expectations | 71 |
The Urge to Mergeand the Need to Diverge | 75 |
You Say You Want a Revolution But Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? | 78 |
Seeking a Second Opinion | 81 |
Button Up Your Panic Buttons | 88 |
Keeping Your Eye on the Prize | 97 |
The Art of Creating Boundaries | 102 |
Getting Your Spouse in Your House | 111 |
RolePlaying with the Punches | 140 |
Laughing through the Apocalypse | 148 |
Making Your Body Say What You Mean | 152 |
Toning Down Your Tone of Voice | 157 |
Reaching for the Words That Reach Them | 162 |
They Are Not There in the Way I Need Them to Be | 224 |
They Want Too Much of My Time | 232 |
They Are Offended When I Dont Share Personal Details of My Life | 238 |
They Put Me in the Middle of Their Marriage or Divorce Problems | 245 |
They Manage to Slip an Insult into Every Conversation | 255 |
They Expect Constant Admiration and Attention | 263 |
They Embarrass Me | 270 |
They Use Money to Manipulate Me | 278 |
They Think I Am a Bad Parent | 293 |
A Word about When to Give Up | 306 |
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Acknowledgments | 310 |
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I'm OK, You're My Parents: How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and ... Dale Atkins Eingeschränkte Leseprobe - 2013 |
Häufige Begriffe und Wortgruppen
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